• Dorm bed (upper) - Participant – CAD $1,140.00
  • Dorm bed (lower) - Participant – CAD $1,146.00
  • Basic Room - Shared - Participant – CAD $1,218.00
  • Basic Room - Private - Participant – CAD $1,440.00
  • Forestview - Shared - Participant – CAD $1,296.00
  • Forestview - Private - Participant – CAD $1,020.00
  • Oceanview Room - Private - Participant – CAD $1,710.00
  • Oceanview Suite - Private - Participant – CAD $1,854.00
  • Staying off-premise - Participant – CAD $1,020.00

Date & Time Details:
Aug 24th - dinner at 6pm, first session follows at 7:30pm
Aug 27th - finish with lunch at noon

Location: In Person at The Haven

240 Davis Rd, Gabriola Island, BC V0R 1X1 Canada

Contact: Haven Registrars, register@haven.ca
1 800 222 9211 x1

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ONSITE: Befriending Your Inner Critic

With Louise Amuir and Graemme Brown

August 24 - 27, 2023

This program is for you if you have self-limiting beliefs that you’re not enough, or that you’re way too much or if your inner dialogue is getting in the way of how you’d like to be living.  If you have ever stopped yourself from doing or having what you truly want because of negative self-talk, we’ll look at some effective ways of transforming your negative self-talk into strong self-allyship.

Through a synthesis of creative process work, somatic experiencing and a generous dollop of Satir work, Graemme and Louise will guide you in making a friendship overture to your Inner Critic.  In the company of supportive co-explorers, open your curiosity to learn what you might be up to and how to establish a good working relationship with yourself moving forward.

Befriending Your Inner Critic uses music, visual arts, movement, guided meditation, laughter and story to help you build (and rebuild) a relationship with your inner critic. Think of it like mediation between you and your critic, or facilitating a creative meeting of the minds.

In this program you will…

  • Dialogue with your hidden critic
  • Get to know yourself and your strengths
  • Re-evaluate and re-establish your relationship with your critic
  • Transform your inner critic into an ally

Befriending Your Inner Critic is for people who want to:

  • Accept themselves
  • Trust themselves
  • Stop the negative self-talk
  • Build confidence in themselves
  • Practice present moment awareness
  • Be intentional about the language they use in inner dialogue
  • Let go of habitual responses to triggers
  • Accomplish their desires

This program is for everyone, whether you identify as male, female, or non-binary.

Bonus pre-work:  For two weeks leading up to the retreat, carry a small notebook and pen with you. Capture the “stops” in your day. Write down each time you hear negative self-talk and notice if you stop yourself from doing something. This is an exercise in building awareness, not judgment, so just notice the stops, that’s all.

Note: The program begins at 7:30 pm on the first evening. Otherwise there are no evening sessions. The daytime session times are 9 am to noon, 1 to 3 pm and 4 to 6 pm.


Our Earlybird tuition price of $750 is available to those registered and paid in full one month prior to the program start.  Full tuition is $810. We are offering private and shared room options.

You can find our cancellation policy here


Your program begins with dinner at 6pm and your first session at 7:30pm.

Daily schedule:

      • Breakfast 8:00am – 9:00am
      • Morning session 9:15am to noon
      • Lunch noon to 1:00pm
      • Afternoon session 1:00pm – 3:00pm
      • Break 3:00pm – 4:00pm
      • Afternoon session 4:00pm – 6:00pm
      • Dinner 6:00pm – 7:00pm
      • Evening’s off to enjoy free time, bodywork, hot tub and sunsets!

Your program finishes with lunch on the last day.


Admission requirements: The student must have the desire and ability to learn.  Must demonstrate a capacity for responsible self care, responsible self organization and sound mental health.  The student must understand and speak English.

This program does not require approval by the registrar of the Private Training Institutions Branch (PTIB) of the Ministry of Advanced Education, Skills and Training.  As such, the registrar did not review this program. What does this mean? Click here to learn more.


Louise Amuir
Louise Amuir (she/they), Diploma of Haven Counselling and Diploma of Haven Group Leadership is interested in creativity and expressive arts as a means to connect with self and others. Louise is committed to diversity, inclusion, equity, reconciliation, and building collaborative processes. Louise’s varied life experiences in theatre, writing, art, dance, music, working with street youth, youth in receiving and treatment homes, parenting, relationships, and meditation bring humour, mindfulness, curiosity, and play to her work with people. As Haven faculty, Louise leads/co-leads: Befriending your Inner Critic; Inner Wisdom for Women; Awareness through Creative Expression; and Haven New Year visioning programs and assists…
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Graemme Brown
Graemme Brown (Dip.C / SEP) runs a private counseling practice on Gabriola Island. Associated with The Haven since attending his first experiential workshop there in 1985, he is dedicated to compassionate and gentle inquiry. Drawing on his expertise with the family-systems approach of Virginia Satir, Jungian shadow work and the trauma healing of Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing system, Graemme’s approach is to assist people to re-connect with their innate resilience and aliveness, fostering healthier relationships within the self, with others and with the planet. As a member of The Haven’s core faculty, Graemme co-leads Come Alive, Living Alive: Self Awareness,…
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