Book now and get CAD $60.00 off listed prices. Offer valid until Apr 30, 2025.
  • Dorm bed (upper) - Participant – CAD $1,140.00
  • Dorm bed (lower) - Participant – CAD $1,140.00
  • Basic Room - Shared - Participant – CAD $1,222.50
  • Basic Room - Private - Participant – CAD $1,440.00
  • Forestview - Shared - Participant – CAD $1,297.50
  • Forestview - Private - Participant – CAD $1,590.00
  • Oceanview Room - Private - Participant – CAD $1,830.00
  • Oceanview Suite - Private - Participant – CAD $1,935.00
  • Staying off-premise - Participant – CAD $1,005.00

Date & Time Details:
May 8th - dinner at 6pm, first session follows at 7:30pm
May 11th - finish with lunch at noon

Location: At The Haven

Address: 240 Davis Rd, Gabriola, BC

Contact: Haven registrar - register@haven.ca
1-800-222-9211 ext 1

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Understanding Ourselves and Others

With Jane Kilthei and Mark Etkin

May 8 - 11, 2025

We all have a personality – our own style of being in the world.  Better understanding our own style, as well as understanding the personality styles of others, can open a window to a deeper understanding of people – both ourselves and others.

This is an introduction to understanding ourselves and others through the lens of psychodynamics. We’ll explore how the process of human development in relation to others begins in early childhood shaping many of the ways we relate to other people and to situations in our adult lives –how we are shaped by our family experiences as well as our biology.

Participants in this program will have the opportunity to learn more effective ways of understanding, connecting and working with others, and to find a deeper experience of compassion for themselves and others along the way. We see self-awareness as essential to developing effective relationships. Participants will be invited to both explore their own personality patterns and to learn to see those patterns in others, while seeing and relating to the whole person. By including both self and other we can learn more effective ways of connecting and engaging with people across the range of human personality styles.

This course has broad applications. It is particularly useful for those working in the fields of group leadership, coaching, mental health, addictions, business teams or any setting where people interact, with a special focus on working as part of a Haven program leader-team.

Program participants will learn:

  • To better understand their own and others’ ways of moving in the world;
  • More effective ways to relate to and work with others in teams and personal relationships;
  • Concrete tools and skills for coaching, counselling and leadership;  and
  • How to get past common personality stereotypes and connect with others beyond our differences and defenses.

This program includes presentations, discussion, self-reflection, role-plays and a range of experiential opportunities. It’s stimulating, intensive, intimate and fun – a rich three days.

Participants will be encouraged to look at their own experience with new understanding and self-compassion in order to further develop their understanding of and skills in working successfully and compassionately with others.

Investment:

Earlybird tuition is $720 and is available up to one month before the programs start date. Full tuition is $780.  Full payment is due one month before the program start date or at the time of registration if less than one month.

We are offering private and shared room options.

You can find our cancellation policy here

Schedule:

Your program begins with dinner at 6pm and your first session at 7:30pm

Daily schedule:

      • Breakfast 8:00 – 9:00am
      • Morning session 9:15am to noon
      • Lunch noon to 1:00pm
      • Afternoon session 3:00 – 6:00pm
      • Dinner 6:00 – 7:00pm
      • Evening session 7:30 – approximately 9:00pm

Afternoon and evening sessions can vary.  Your program finishes with lunch on the last day

Transportation:

If you are travelling to Gabriola as a foot passenger on the Gabriola Ferry a shuttle to The Haven can be requested.  Information on this option will be included in your pre-arrival email.

 

 

Admission requirements: The student must have the desire and ability to learn.  Must demonstrate a capacity for responsible self care, responsible self organization and sound mental health.  The student must understand and speak English.

This program does not require approval by the registrar of the Private Training Institutions Branch (PTIB) of the Ministry of Advanced Education, Skills and Training.  As such, the registrar did not review this program. What does this mean? Click here to learn more.

Leaders

Jane Kilthei
Jane Kilthei (she/they) RM (Hon), DipC brings an open heart and a desire to create a more compassionate world to the programs she leads and assists. She co-leads “Communication Basics: connecting when it matters”, “Communication Intensive: from Fundamentals to Mastery”, and assists at Come Alive, Couples Alive and other Haven core programs. Jane believes that deep listening and the courage to come forward and speak from our values are essential to creating the relationships and world we want. After 30+ years working as a midwife and change-maker, she now focuses on facilitating community dialogue and her resilience-focused coaching practice on…
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Mark Etkin
Mark Etkin MD, FRCPC, Dip C has a warm and caring manner and he loves to help to create an environment of caring, safety, and personal growth.  After practicing as a GP in a community clinic, he did a psychiatry residency, and has been working in the areas of psychotherapy, body-mind integration, and working with unhoused people.  He considers himself fortunate to be able to combine his medical training with his extensive Haven experiences, both for his own personal growth and to support others.
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