Couples Alive I: Foundation

Communication and Boundaries for Couples

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Couples Alive is our renowned 4-day program series for couples. If you’re wanting more out of your primary relationship and are prepared to go beyond the familiar to find it, Couples Alive is for you!​


"I went with a laundry list of grievances and doubts about my partner and left reminded of the huge range of options available to ground myself, see my role, be more boundaried and loving. I feel so much more love, and understood." 

                                                       - Andrew, Couples Alive

The Couples Alive series is our core offering for people in a primary relationship. Much of what makes Come Alive (our core program for individuals) so unique and transformative underpins these programs, but with a distinctly couples focus. With support and guidance from highly skilled leaders, you will learn and practice The Haven's proprietary models for communicating and relating with your partner and learn from the diversity of experience around you. All couples meet together during the day and into the evenings, with breaks for relaxation, connection, or adventure in between. In addition to group activities, experiential learning, and discussion, the program leaders offer coaching and feedback to each couple when possible. Couples Alive I: Foundation is an invaluable stand-alone program as well as essential basis for continued learning in the series.


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"It was a pivotal moment in our relationship - we went to The Haven as the last straw before separation. We are now so much more connected and very, very hopeful about a happier future together. Such an amazing experience."

                                 -J., Couples Alive


Couples Alive program highlights:

  • 4 focused days together improving, revitalizing, and expanding your relationship
  • A chance to get away and visit Gabriola, one of BC's most accessible gulf islands
  • In-depth exploration and application of our tried-and-tested Communication Model from a distinctly couples perspective
  • Many years of continued success with hundreds of diverse couples
  • A truly unique approach to relationships developed - and lived - by our founders, Dr. Ben Wong and Dr. Jock McKeen
  • A variety of breathing and body-awareness experiences that you can take home to continue nurturing your connection and growth
  • Discovery of your boundaries and development of skills to express wishes, wants and needs
  • Opportunities for self-care and/or quality time together with our oceanfront hot tub, seasonal pool, onsite bodyworkers, gym, meditation room, forest trails, pool table, games, and more…
  • The magic of a diverse group of couples. The opportunity to learn from and relate to others in this setting is both rich and unique
  • Something different from your traditional couples counseling sessions – couples often report accelerated outcomes compared to individual sessions (though we believe there’s a place for both)
  • Coaching and feedback from experienced and professional leadership who are highly trained both at The Haven and in their various professions
  • A program series that offers opportunities to continue to learn and grow together…


“We are modeling a healthier relationship for our children. What a legacy!”

                                                                              - Lori Appleton, Couples Alive I: Foundation


  • We welcome all people in a primary relationship, whether the individuals identify as male, female, or non-binary
  • Participants will be invited, but not required, to share what's going on for them and their relationship in the larger group. As with all Haven programs, how you participate is your choice
  • Couples Alive I: Foundation is the basis for this series and must be taken first
  • Couples Alive II: Edge is the next program in the series, building on the learning and experiences of Couples Alive I: Foundation.  This program is not scheduled for 2020. Please contact our Registrars to request information
  • Couples Alive III: Day-to-Day is not scheduled for 2020. Please contact our Registrars to request information
  • Discounts of $250 per person are available when you take more than one Couples Alive program within the year. For example, Couples Alive I in June, followed by Couples Alive II in August of the same year

Book 30 days before the program to save $80! 

All-inclusive (per person) package pricing from: $1485* Includes program tuition, accommodation, and meals. Pricing is per person. Tuition only: $1205 ($1125 Early Bird).

*"Pricing from" is calculated using early-bird discounts and the most economical, off-season accommodation rates. These calculations are intended to help you evaluate your investment and do not guarantee the availability of specific accommodations and rates. Please verify availability and rates for specific session dates by clicking "Register" or by calling our registrars toll-free at 1 800 222 9211 x 1. ​This program does not require approval by the registrar of the Private Training Institutions Branch (PTIB) of the Ministry of Advanced Education, Skills and Training.  As such, the registrar did not review this program. What does this mean? Click here to learn more.