Shen blog

Writing last week about The Vocation Myth and Impostor Syndrome , I was reminded of the four Identity Statuses outlined by James Marcia , a Canadian developmental psychologist who taught at Simon Fraser University. Susan Clarke, Cathy McNally and I have recently referred to Marcia’s ideas in the 25...Read more
By Carole Ames For virtually every contract, workshop or consultancy I provide, the feedback includes a recognition of my unique “value added” – my laughter, my sense of humour, my warmth. This means that in corporate settings, on the counselling “couch”, or in a personal growth circle, humour is...Read more
By Toby Macklin. One day when I was about eleven years old I was sent home with a school report suggesting that I was “too eclectic for my own good.” We had to look the word up. Eclectic : selecting or borrowing; choosing the best out of everything; broad, the opposite of exclusive. Reading that...Read more
By Rachel Davey In May, Morag Ruckman and I had the great good fortune to attend the International Holistic Centers Gathering at Le Monastere des Augustines in Quebec City. We had an amazing time! The ethos of the Gathering is that centres can come together, learn and share, and we will all be...Read more
Susan Clarke and CrisMarie Campbell are core faculty at The Haven. In 2015 they gave this talk on conflict as an energy source and why you should listen at TEDxWhitefish . The #1 source of pain on a team, or in any relationship, is conflict. What if conflict wasn’t good or bad? What if conflict was...Read more
Father Jack Sproule died peacefully in his sleep at the Dwelling Place, in Nanaimo, BC on February 18th 2016 after some years of declining health. On this page can be found Jock McKeen's eulogy, a link to the funeral program and a reflection written by Father Jack. REMEMBERING FATHER JACK Jock...Read more
By Cathy McNally About three weeks ago I slid slowly into resistance. I think I was attempting to delude myself with entertaining stories about what was going on; some magnificently ‘noble’ justification—but I saw myself. Yuk. Then another pattern started to move into gear: self hate. Blaming and...Read more
By Justin Kautz Wow! Gabriolans know how to send someone off with love. By design, the last week on the island for me was filled by the Isle of the Arts Festival - a bustling hub of idea, lifestyle and art cross-pollination. Further, the hosting of Mary and Gary Holdgrafer has no bounds! Their...Read more
Haven Foundation Board are delighted to announce two new Directors, Jan Pullinger and Gary Holdgrafer. Gary and Jan are both residents of Gabriola and have significant involvement with programs and training at The Haven. Each draws on rich and varied personal and professional life experiences, and...Read more
Sexual Intelligence for Body, Mind and Heart is a new core program at The Haven led by Elfi Dillon Shaw. Here are some testimonials from participants at the end of the most recent program. Taking Sexual Intelligence gave me the opportunity to practice embodying a healthier and fuller way of being a...Read more