ONSITE: Anger, Boundaries and Safety
With Greg Gurel
September 30 - October 3, 2022
The boundaried, safe and responsible expression of anger can help you stand forward on your own behalf and create the life and relationships you want.
Few emotions are more feared than anger, largely because anger is so often confused with violence. A central theme of this program is that anger and violence are different. It is sadly true, of course, that anger is frequently expressed violently – physically, verbally and emotionally. However, this is the unsafe, unboundaried expression of anger, used to harm and control. The good news is that anger is a natural feeling that exists in all of us, and when expressed in a safe and boundaried manner – non-violently – it can be passionate, life enhancing, and good for relationships.
This program offers participants opportunities to both express and witness the safe and boundaried expression of anger. This is helpful for people who have previously expressed their anger violently and no longer want to do this. It is also crucial for people who say they never get angry or, perhaps because of early experiences of violence, avoid any hint of anger today. For both these groups of people, emotional, physical and relationship dysfunction may have resulted. This program will open up exciting new possibilities for you, whatever experiences of anger and/or violence you have had until now.
Initially developed by the late Joann Peterson, the program follows a progression. To begin with, participants explore their beliefs about anger; next, there is discussion of the origins of anger and its varied spectrum of expression; and then participants are invited to gradually begin exploring their personal energetic patterns and trying out a range of individual and relational tools for anger expression.
This program will benefit you if:
- You’re always trying to avoid confrontations and/or disagreements
- You’ve been told you’re an angry person
- You are holding on to anger and resentment connected with past events
- You feel repressed, depressed, or emotionally numb
- You want to get angry but are scared of what might happen
- You experience stiffness, headaches, stomach discomfort or other physical ailments that may be associated with unexpressed or violently expressed anger
You can also read about a personal experience at Anger, Boundaries and Safety in the Shen Blog.
Our Earlybird tuition price of $720 is available specifically for this session to those registered and paid in full one month prior to the program start. Full tuition is $780.
We are offering private and shared room options, if room sharing is not permitted due to tightened Covid restrictions in the fall then we will be in touch with participants about moving to single accommodation.
- Shared accommodation and meal packages start at $326.03
- Private accommodation and meal packages start at $539.87
You can find our cancellation policy here
Your program begins with dinner at 6pm and your first session at 7:30pm
- Breakfast 8-9:15am
- Morning session 9:15am to noon
- Lunch noon to 3:00pm
- Afternoon session 3:00-6:00pm
- Dinner 6:00 – 7pm
- Evening session 7:30pm
Afternoon and evening sessions can vary. Your program finishes with lunch on the last day
If you are travelling to Gabriola as a foot passenger on the Gabriola Ferry a shuttle to The Haven can be requested. Information on this option will be included in your pre-arrival email.
Covid 19 Protocols and Mask Mandates:
The Haven is currently following the BC Provincial health guidelines which means that proof of vaccination is no longer required to register for this program. Masks will no longer be required to be worn inside session rooms, while those who wish to continue wearing masks may do so.
Participants are required to self-monitor for symptoms of illness, and are asked to isolate from others when showing symptoms.
Review our current Communicable Disease Safety Protocols to keep us all healthy on property.
Admission requirements: The student must have the desire and ability to learn. Must demonstrate a capacity for responsible self care, responsible self organization and sound mental health. The student must understand and speak English.
This program does not require approval by the registrar of the Private Training Institutions Branch (PTIB) of the Ministry of Advanced Education, Skills and Training. As such, the registrar did not review this program. What does this mean? Click here to learn more.
Greg Gurel MPCC-S RPC ACC is a long time Havenite that has been involved with the Anger, Boundaries and Safety program since 1994 and became the leader in 2007. Currently living in Vancouver where he has a private counselling practice, Greg has also developed curriculum and taught counselling and coaching certification courses at a Vancouver based college with mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual components delivered experientially. Although Greg’s practice is diverse, for the last years he has been focusing more on conflict and boundaries in relationship, supervising/mentoring new counsellors, and providing continuing education courses. Website: The Right Time To Talk
Learn more about Greg Gurel