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關係中的衝突與共創

 “讓一個人去愛另一個人, 這可能是所有任務中最艱難最極致的一件, 也是我們最後的試驗和證明. 為做好這件事, 我們所有其他的工作都是為此而做的準備.”

誠如著名的德國詩人萊納·瑪利亞·里爾克所言，人際關係常是我們生命中最艱苦的工作，然而也是最美好的禮物。在不曾停下腳步的忙碌世界裡，我們花在周遭重要關係的時間卻是越來越少。當全球疫情劇烈地改變著世界以及我們的此刻，也許正是重新審視我們重要人際關係的最佳時機。這個課程適用於我們所有生活與工作中的重要關係：夫妻、家人、朋友和同事。課程中我們將一起檢視我們如何參與並促成了這些重要關係的互動；在衝突和差異中我們如何了解自己並再次認識他人；我們如何使用有效的工具來進行重要卻難以啟齒的對話；更重要的，我們如何學習待在失去愛之後的苦痛中，更深入地探索埋藏在深處的愛與感受。這個課程是我們2021年終全球雙語線上學習的高點，課程將提供難能可貴反思和更新的機會 — 尤其當我們面臨各種宏觀和微觀挑戰的時刻。這個線上學習的平台不僅創造了你我連結的機緣，也是我們可以一起成長共創的園地！加拿大Haven學院兩位精彩的核心導師麥凱西Cathy McNally和李文淑Wen-Shwu Lee期待年底與你線上見面，共創又一次的豐富之旅。

課程重點

•  「你」就是改善關係的關鍵

如果沒有付諸心力來耕耘我們的重要關係，這些關係就會逐漸消退。無論是在家或在職，與家人、同事或朋友相處，缺少滋養的關係終究趨向疏離。疏離所造成的猜測、誤解和衝突等惡性循環的機會也因此增加。你是否經常使用無意識的「自動駕駛」而匆忙度過人生？其實改善關係的途徑始於「你」自已！讓我們了解人類的感知、壓力，並學習覺察與專注，讓我們一起練習有效的工具來提高我們的意識，並改善我們的關係。

• 衝突、價值觀和進行重要的對話

生活中我們都曾面對極具挑戰的人和情境，我們都有被激怒的經驗。你的激怒點是什麼？你又如何反應？有些人會生氣或吵鬧，有些人會閉嘴或沉默；這些常見的即時反應都將導致關係出現問題。這兩種方式都讓我們迴避了關係中重要的對話。讓我們來探索這些衝突背後潛在的問題，如何讓衝突變為禮物？在衝突中我們如何因重要的對話而使生活變得更寬闊！

• 面對逝去的愛 — 我以為我知道了關係的一切……！

凱西老師有三段主要的關係，她經歷過離婚、伴侶逝去，之後又在60多歲時開始約會戀愛。歡迎加入凱西老師的分享，聽聽她現身說法她的故事 – 她在關係中的學習和成長。聽到她的故事之後，也許你我也有機會來學習洞察力，重新審視我們的關係與生活。

• 整合並深化我們的學習探索

這次的豐富之旅也是共創的園地，學員們所面臨的議題以及關注的領域，可以為大家創造豐盛的學習體驗。課程中我們將利用時間進行小組互動與大組問答，期待與你一起共創這次豐富的學習經驗，也期待經由有效的工具來協助提升你的生命活力和關係品質。

課程形式

這是中英文的双語課程！現場有中文翻譯，學員有機會提問、互動、討論。在大團體的教學氛圍內，我們也設計了個人化的小組分享（不超過七人），用分組討論的方式進行小組互動學習以創造不同的學習動能與契機。您可以選擇英文組或者是中文組。 我們鼓勵每位學員能將課程所學落實於生活，課程中將提供有效的工具便於應用在生活中以及課後練習。 課後回家練習的項目，您可以輕鬆地自己做練習，也可以選擇與他人一起切磋討論或分享。

課程時間

每一階段的線上互動課程我們會在Zoom平台上有四次的相遇，依照您所在的地理位置將會在下列時間舉行：

 太平洋時間 PT

• 12月3日，星期五，6-8pm PT
• 12月4日，星期六，6-8pm PT
• 12月10日，星期五，6-8pm PT
• 12月11日，星期六，6-8pm PT

中國標準時間 CST

• 12月4日，星期六，10am-12pm CST
• 12月5日，星期日，10am-12pm CST
• 12月11日，星期六，10am-12pm CST
• 12月12日，星期日，10am-12pm CST

錄影回放

假如您無法在現場參與課程，我們鼓勵您仍然可以報名註冊，在課後幾天我們將會通知一個效期十五天的課程錄影連結給所有註冊的學員。為方便課程回顧，我們將會錄製課程中學習的部分，可能包括問與答。錄影回放的連結會在課後寄送給學員。我們不會錄製小組分享的內容，也盡可能不去錄到個人的影音，如果您在大組中提出疑問或是分享回饋時，覺得自己不想被錄製到，請隨時告訴我們暫停錄製。除非得到當事人的同意，所有錄製到的個人影音部分我們絕不會對課程以外的人分享。 建議您先下載WeChat軟體，所以您可以更方便地收到我們的課程錄影以及課程提醒。

課程費用

加幣 $188

上列價格包含了8小時的線上課程，限時15天的課後回放錄影連結，以及我們的技術支援服務。

 包容助學金

謝謝我們款項的捐贈人，海文社區多元化以及包容基金將提供有限的名額讓需要的人來申請全部或局部的助學金，申請人必須在課程開始的七天之前提出申請，有關更多的資訊或是申請上的恊助請點選這裡 ___。這次課程的申請截止日：2021年11月25日。

 技術需求

這個線上課程將在免費的Zoom視頻會議軟體上進行，學員可以方便地在各種裝置上使用這個軟體。您會需要一個數位裝置，（我們推薦桌上型電腦或膝上型電腦，平板裝置或是手機也可以使用，）另外必須有順暢的網路連結和聲音功能，（我們推薦使用耳機，內建或外接式麥克風，或是發聲系統也可行。）您可以點選下面的連結來測試您的裝置連線以及實用性 zoom.us/test.  請在課前15分鐘提早上線，我們將提供必須的技術支援服務。

 合作夥伴

這是一個加拿大海文和中國團隊的跨國合作！感謝双方的合作我們才有機會將海文精彩的課程持續地從加拿大本土推廣到全球的平台上。

Conflict and Co-creation in Relationships

 “For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”

Like the above quote by Rainer Maria Rilke, relationships are the hardest work we do and the greatest gift when they are working. In our busy world we have devoted less and less time to them. In the pandemic we had sudden big changes. Now more than ever is a good time to revisit relationships. This program is for couples, families, friends, and co-workers – it applies to all important relationships in our life or work. Together we will examine how we participate in and contribute to these important relational dynamics; how we understand ourselves and others through conflicts and differences; how we use effective tools to carry out important yet difficult conversations; most of all how we explore deeper our loving in discomfort and after losses. This is our 2021 year-end highlight of the Haven Global Bilingual Programs – it provides great opportunities to review and renew – especially in our macro and micro challenges. Not only is this the place we connect but also where we grow! Our two wonderful Haven core faculty members Cathy McNally and Wen-Shwu Lee will facilitate this journey of richness with you, and we look forward to meeting you online!

Highlights

• YOU are Key to Better Relationships

If you aren’t working on the relationships that are important to you, they will decline. Without attention people drift apart, at home, at work, with family or friends. The chance for assumptions, misunderstandings and conflict grow. How often are you on ‘automatic pilot,’ rushing through your life? The path to better relationships begins with you. Learn about human perception, stress, and mindful focus. Practice techniques to increase your awareness and improve any relationship

• Conflict, Values, and Important Conversations

We all have people and situations that are very challenging. Times when we get triggered. What are yours? How do you react? Some get angry or loud, others shut down or are silent. Each way causes problems. Both ways avoid important conversations. Come and explore what is underlying, how conflict can be a gift, and the important conversations that can benefit your life.

• Loving after Loss – I thought I knew everything about relationship …!

Cathy has been in three primary relationships, experiencing divorce, death, and then dating in her 60s. Join Cathy as she shares her story of learning and growing in relationship. Gain insights to take back into your own relationship and your life.

• Integration and Deepening

This course is also a co-creation field. We believe that exploring the emerging issues and key areas of interest will lead to rich learning for us all. There will be time for group discussions, Q&A, as well as review of useful tools for aliveness and co-creativity in your life and relationships.

Format

This bilingual program is offered in Mandarin and English with live translation. Participants will have opportunities to ask questions, discuss and interact with each other. Within the large group context, we will also use breakout rooms for smaller groups discussions (maximum seven people). Breakout rooms will be offered with language options; you can choose an English breakout room or Mandarin breakout room. We will provide Take-Home tools that you can easily use on your own and with others.

Schedule

We will meet 4 times on Zoom. Depending on where you are in the world, the sessions will take place:

 In Pacific Time:  

• Friday, December 3, 6-8pm PT
• Saturday, December 4, 6-8pm PT
• Friday, December 10, 6-8pm PT
• Saturday, December 11, 6-8pm PT

In China Standard Time:  

• Saturday, December 4, 10am-12pm CST
• Sunday, December 5, 10am-12pm CST
• Saturday, December 11, 10am-12pm CST
• Sunday, December 12, 10am-12pm CST

Recording

If you are unable to join one of the sessions, we encourage you to still register. Recordings of the teaching components of each session will be accessible online for 15 days. We will be recording the learning portions of these sessions and may record Q&A. Personal sharing in breakout rooms is not recorded and participants audio and video will never be shared without consent. Recordings will be distributed to participants in this program following the live sessions. We do our best not to record audio and video of participants; however, if you are uncomfortable being recorded, please ask us to pause recording while you ask a question or share feedback. Any recording material with participants will never be shared outside of this group without consent. It is recommended that you download WeChat so that you can receive the recordings and program reminders more easily.

Investment

CAD$188

 The above price includes live programming of 8 hours of the program. You will also have 15 days access to recordings and technical support service.

 Access & Inclusion:

Thanks to our donors, we offer a limited number of full or partial bursaries through the Community Diversity & Inclusion Fund. Applications must be received at least 7 days prior to the program start date. Learn more and apply for support here. Funding Application Deadline: November 25, 2021.

Technical Requirements

This online program will be hosted on Zoom, a video conferencing software that is free for participants and easy to use on a variety of devices. You will need to have a device (desktop computer or laptop recommended; tablet or smartphone can work too), reliable internet connection, and sound capabilities (headset recommended; built in or external microphone or speaker systems can work too). You can test your device connection and compatibility in advance here: zoom.us/test. You will be invited to join the call up to 15 minutes early to receive technical support.

Partnership

This program is a partnership between The Haven (Canada) and our China Team. We are grateful of the co-sponsorship so we can continue to offer transformational programs through The Haven and internationally. It is recommended that you download WeChat so that you can receive the recordings and program reminders more easily.